Mr. UT and I are still walking! We finally had a bitter cold stretch, which lasted way too long, but we walked through it all. Getting outside is my one sure way of keeping my spirits up. I find it hard to motivate myself, however, so walking with a partner, Mr. UT or a friend, helps me get out.
I have had some up and down thoughts and feelings, along with most of the world, I think. As I listen, read, and see how people cope with life, it seems to me that people that succeed through difficult times, don’t let the negative over take them. They manage to get back up. Some people exercise, some people help others, some people get medical help, some people use self-talk, some people use friends and family.
For myself, I find several things help me. I use positive self-talk and positive mantras to help my mood lift. Writing is another key. I write my negative feelings, then counter them with reality. Then I see that I am almost always overreacting, or feeling sorry for myself.
Another key is to reach out and tell someone I trust, someone who will listen to me. They often show me a different perspective, maybe one I don’t want to accept, but is often right. Mr. UT of course is a master at this! LOL
Laughing is another important tool that helps me. If I make other people laugh, it helps my mood. When I go visit my 95 year old mom, I try to be sure I leave her with laughter. I easily make myself laugh, because I always seem to do strangely weird things!
Reading inspirational quotes and stories help me put my life into perspective. This is so important. How can I complain when I see some of the odds other people have faced.
I have also used therapy, reading self-help books, and take an anti-depressant. I use all the help I can get. It was in my last therapy I learned about self-compassion, and that helped me have a huge shift in my thinking. I finally accepted myself, my life, in a manner of grace. I am ok.
As Mr. UT reminds me, my problems seem big to me, but in the big wide world, are small. I know there will be hard times in the future, and I know my moods will go up and down. However, I will choose not to stay there.
Writing poems has been so fun for me. They are so very simple, but I just enjoy the words that pop out of my brain and into my hand. Here is my latest one:
Nature never ceases,
To bring me such relief,
From all my mindless troubles,
That cloud my feelings of peace.
How can I ever be troubled,
When gazing on the earth,
Wondering how nature can make,
Such beauty in rebirth.
Lift up my spirits, trees and birds,
Lift up my head to see,
There is a wider window,
Where all our souls are free!
While Finally getting out of Bed,
On Day 2361,