Dear Readers,
When I retired, I struggled trying to figure out my purpose in life. I always felt a strong purpose being a teacher. But now, what was I, a retired teacher, past her prime? What was my important purpose now? I had struggled with this for several years.
I am reading a book called, Four Thousand Weeks, by Oliver Burkeman, and a chapter called “Cosmic Insignificant Therapy”, really helped me come to a realization. There are only so many “greatest of all time” individuals in the world. Most of us will never be a famous singer, author, painter, or hero of the world we wanted to be.
According to Burkeman, our lives really don’t matter much more than a flicker when it comes to the universe. He believes that thinking we need a huge super important purpose, is grandiose thinking.
For years I have been holding myself to a standard I cannot meet. I worked so hard to be a perfect teacher, not realizing I could never live up to that standard, and just being a good teacher was ok. In fact, that pressure I put on myself just increased my drinking problem.
When I look around at people I admire, they are just ordinary people. Not super anything. They are kind, loving, generous, and helping when they can. This means, I too can be a regular person, who lives as best she can showing kindness to people around me. My purpose is as ordinary as making Mr. UT happy. It is as mundane as volunteering one day a week. It is as normal as keeping a neat house. (But not cooking! LOL) Maybe just a lot of little purposes.
If all I ever do at this time of my life, is to make the world a little better for someone, that is all that is needed.
Into the air, I send my prayers,
For people hurting everywhere,
Hoping they help to do their part,
And bring healing to many hearts.
With Snow, but Warmer Sun,
On Day 2754,
Wendy
(Photos from past March Walks)



I completely agree, Wendy😊.
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Just checking on you, Wendy. Hope all is well.
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This all really resonates. I am well aware of being just a flicker in the universe. I’ve been slow slow slowing down internally for the past couple of months (I think this is in part still part of quitting drinking, and also from other sources), and am at a point right now of having no freaking clue, at a deep level, of what to do with my time/attention and am not willing to invent something with my mind just to fill the space, even with good stuff. I’m reading A Course in Miracles, slowly, and according to it, humans’ task is to release our ego/small-false mind and let the true mind (god mind (not her terms)) come to the surface. I’m still trying to understand what that means (it has a lot, or everything, to do with our thoughts and actions toward other humans) but your post here helped. It’s nice to have this stuff echoed in the minds of people around me! Have a wonderful Monday, Wendy.
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Hugs, dear friend! I wonder if I’d like that course as well.
And yes, it’s at a deep level, my thoughts of being “more”.
Happy Monday!
xo
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This is such a wonderful point Wendy. I think it’s hard because there’s a fine line between genuine and healthy self improvement … and wanting to improve to the point of unattainable perfection!
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I agree, a fine line.
☕️💃🏻❤️
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This message was just perfect for me to read today. It as simple as you wrote, just be. Thank you for continuing to share your life’s findings and all those gorgeous pictures! You have touched me with your blogging. I say that is a wonderful “little” purpose accomplished. 🙂
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Thank you, Lia! I hope all is well!
xo
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Yes, as well as can be; you know, life is a messy little affair but worth it!
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Completely agree and loved reading this! I’m sure that doing these regular things affect others that you may not even know as well! ❤️❤️❤️
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Hugs, dear Jacqueline!
xoxoxo
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agree with everyone above..a wonderful post and agree with all of it! Yay!
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❤️☕️❤️☕️💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻
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Yes, this makes perfect sense to me, too. Thank you for your thoughtful post, Wendy. 💕
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Thank you!
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Love this, Wendy!❤️
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Hi Elizabeth!
Thank you!
xo
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