I thought of this topic as I got through another week of being sick.
Now on the mend, I made it to my yoga practice. YAY!
Life is not all happy. It can’t be. We will be faced with loss, sorrow, and sickness.
Certainly if we have been drinking too much, we have caused some pain in our lives.
How do we deal with this?
Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences.
(From: The Road to Resilience by the American Psychological Association)
What I read on other sober blogs, hear in meetings, and read in books, is about people bouncing back even after really hard experiences.
I find it interesting that much of the work that I, and other people in recovery are doing, is working on how to increase our resiliency.
Listed on the site above are 10 ways to help build resiliency. They are:
Make connections. Good relationships with close family members, friends or others are important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based organizations, or other local groups provides social support and can help with reclaiming hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.
Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. You can’t change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.
Accept that change is a part of living. Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.
Move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly — even if it seems like a small accomplishment — that enables you to move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?”
Take decisive actions. Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away.
Look for opportunities for self-discovery. People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, greater sense of strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality and heightened appreciation for life.
Nurture a positive view of yourself. Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience.
Keep things in perspective. Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.
Maintain a hopeful outlook. An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.
Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience.
Additional ways of strengthening resilience may be helpful. For example, some people write about their deepest thoughts and feelings related to trauma or other stressful events in their life. Meditation and spiritual practices help some people build connections and restore hope.
The key is to identify ways that are likely to work well for you as part of your own personal strategy for fostering resilience.
Easy? Not always. In fact, many times no.
Worth it? YES!
To all my fellow people in recovery, I wish you peace.
4 thoughts on “Resiliency”
hi WendyI am glad you are feeling better and got to yoga. great Post. thanksLisawww.thecword-compassion.com
Thank you, Lisa!
Glad you are feeling better. A couple of these really hit home for me as I have a really hard time with them…Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems.Accept that change is a part of living.
Dear TMSN,I have to keep telling myself,All will be well.Like a mantra.Hugs!