|A Flower I Found|
“We can think of ourselves as a brilliant star; significant, yet small compared to the endless expanse of space around us.”
“There’s much that is beyond our capabilities and much we don’t know, but that doesn’t diminish what we know and can do. We can feel humble seeing how our strengths contribute to the whole”.
(From the book, A Woman’s Way through The Twelve Steps)
What if you could forgive yourself.
What if you could accept every thing you hated about yourself.
What if you could put down the drink, and hug yourself, and tell yourself you are loved.
What if you could see that just being you, that just you reading these words, you are a star. You have nothing to prove, no one you have to be, just you.
This is what I had to learn, and still practice every day. It’s the only way I have been able to become a more joyful person. I am learning to accept everything the way it is.
My life is not harder or easier than others, it just is.
|On A Walk|
The universe is not out to get me.
I look around and see other people, and I see their lives are not mine to live, and they do not live mine.
Everyone has pain. Everyone has joy.
There was no other way for me to stop drinking until I fully forgave myself for past drinking times, for hating myself, for not being perfect.
Being perfect is an illusion.
This took awhile. With the help of a good therapist, reading, and reframing my self-talk, I was able to learn. When I find I am getting angry at myself about something, I once again, remind myself I am only human.
I have to have compassion for myself, or I can’t give it to other people.
I don’t need to be anything but Wendy. I am loud, I can get too silly, I can be jealous, I can be judgmental, I can feel sorry for myself, but I know I am still ok.
Gratitude and acceptance are cornerstones for me.
I wish this gift for you.
|Happy Birthday, Hubs!|
You are loved, you are strong, you are worthy. You don’t need to drink, to shine for anyone. You already are shining.
With All the Stars,
On Day 1415,
PS – Hubs just had his birthday! He got ice cream, which is our big treat! LOL